Judgemental eyesPosted: August 6, 2012
Have you ever met someone for the first time and instantly felt that the person is not very nice? But after getting to know the person, you realize how wrong you were? Well that is because we judge people by their appearance.
Recently I read an article in Glamour magazine about how people are judged by their looks. How fat women are seen to be lazy or sloppy and how thin women are seen to be mean, uptight, weak or a control freak. I never really thought about it until now. It is true, we do judge people by their looks and I do get judged myself.
I used to be a little chubby when I was a kid. Family friends will tease me by calling me “Fat Girl” thus making me very careful of my weight when I got older. (Yes! it’s all your fault! haha!)
Today, I am finally considered slim. I try to workout and eat healthier but I do still enjoy ice cream and potato chips every so often. I admit that I am vain. What’s wrong with that? Being slim doesn’t make me a mean person, I am still the same girl I was when I was a chubby kid.
I remember there was one incident where my sis and I went shopping for a camera. We were considering a waterproof camera for underwater photos. The salesman whom I met for the first time and was only talking to for less than 10minutes said to me, “You want it for scuba?” And then added “You??” “You can scuba?” With a very doubtful look on his face.
Well I have never done scuba before at that time and was actually planning a trip to krabi to try scuba. But I don’t know this person and he sure doesn’t know me. How can he judge me? Saying that I can’t scuba! Do I look that weak? After only talking to me for 10minutes he thinks he knows me? So, I replied him…..You don’t know me, how do you know I can’t scuba? He went silent. I wonder what else does he think I can’t do.
Don’t judge a book by its cover. I guess sometimes its easier said than done. Try to be patient and get to know someone before you start judging them.
As Abraham Lincoln said ” I don’t like that man. I must get to know him better”